Ahh so we meet again, but this time it’s near Easter! Who would’ve thought we’d be here already, I’m sure it only feels like yesterday where I was writing about New Years Resolutions! Time is definitely flying by, so I thought I’d better get on in with a post before it’s xmas again.

So we currently have an Easter sale online at the moment – 30% off all stock + Free shipping! There’s still some great pieces left in each range, so be sure to get in quick. Some gorgeous new frocks and casual wear (including skinny leg jeans) are on their way in store very very soon so that’s just a little bit exciting! Do keep an eye out, we’ll also finally have Hell Bunny on its way in too, so stay tuned.

On the Curvy is Beautiful mantra front, most of you would have seen we’ve been getting some great support on our FB page, please please keep the positive comments and likes coming, it’s awesome to have so many of you sharing your thoughts on how you feel about yourselves and getting that positive message of loving who you are out there!

It’s funny when I decide it’s time to write a blog post I’ll find there’s always a zillion things or issues I could potentially write about, there always seems to be something in the media about weight or dieting, or there’s always something about some celebrity who’s put on half a kilo or at the other extreme of wasting away because they’ve lost a couple off an already tiny frame….but today I thought I would share with you a conversation I had with a good friend of mine.

Now as you would have gathered, I am a curvy girl and am an ambassador for loving your shape. I am not saying we should or shouldn’t be a particular weight or size, I am just saying we should accept that we can’t ALL be a certain size or look a certain way and we should learn to be a little more accepting and a little kinder to ourselves when we’re constantly comparing ourselves (or attaining to be something that’s clearly unrealistic). So this goes both ways. It applies if you’ve got curves and applies if you’re someone who doesn’t.

So where am I going with this? Well the girlfriend I caught up with (who mind you has always been supportive and encouraging of my venture), happens to be a size 6 and probably weights around 45 kilos. She’s a little thing, but always has been. She eats like you wouldn’t believe, but just has a small build. Now that doesn’t bother her, she’s actually quite a confident woman and is content with how she looks and loves her shape and size. She is not one to put others down, however finds that even though she doesn’t do so, she is often prone to snide remarks or being stereotyped for the fact that she is quite a small build and obviously thin. So this is where my blog post is going….

We say that people should accept the fact that not everyone can be a size 6 or a size 8, that not everyone can be thin or look like someone on the cover of a magazine. We want people to accept the fact that some of us are genuinely happy and content carrying  a few extra kilos, and that some of us like having something to grab at. So then why does this not apply the other way? Why are we starting to become critical of those who cannot be a size 14 or 16 or more.

Why are we not accepting of the fact that some people are just not built curvier, some people have small builds and quick metabolisms and genes that have them still fitting into the same jeans at 35 that they wore when they were 18. And of course on the other hand, some people just want to be a smaller size so they live a lifestyle that enables that. There is nothing wrong with that.

Why are we striving so hard for self acceptance and tolerance of bigger or plus sizes, yet continue to put down those who aren’t? My friend said to me ‘people don’t realize, but it’s actually pretty frustrating to constantly be hearing people say that skinny isn’t attractive or that being a size 6 must mean you don’t eat’ and at that moment I sat there and thought she is spot on. It would be awful to have people making remarks about your shape regardless if it’s because you are ‘too small’ or ‘too big’.

This girl couldn’t be bigger than a size 6 if she tried. And no she’s not really exercise mad, or overly health conscious, in fact, she’s one of the only friends I can always count on to have a big arse block of Cadbury in her cupboard and we’ve had many a times where we’ve sat there and devoured the block between us!

She’s a beautiful woman, blessed with good genes and is someone who is open and honest in saying ‘if bigger people are happy the way they are, then that’s great and good for them, but don’t go putting us skinnier ones down because we aren’t carrying extra weight, because some of us can’t help it, or don’t want to because we like the way we look.’ And on that I had to say that I agreed with her.

I have many friends who also have been unbelievably supportive, who would definitely fall into that category of being a size 6 or less than a 10, and they think it’s great that I am trying to get a positive body message out there (and of course trying to provide more of an option for those who are bigger than a size 14) but it goes without saying, we really shouldn’t be hypocritical in our quest for acceptance. We shouldn’t be putting another size or shape down to make ourselves feel better about the way we are. For some it’s a choice, but for some it’s not. We need to learn to accept ALL shapes and sizes even if they don’t necessarily suit us or the way that we want to be.

And to my die hard supporters, I am in no way saying that we should start trying to be smaller or something that we aren’t, because I personally am still of the opinion that curves are HOT! But I am saying  that we should accept that not everyone shares that opinion, and as we are expecting others to be accepting of our shape, size and opinion on our bodies, then we should really make sure we try and do the same of theirs.

Until next time

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